You’ve Saved for Retirement Your Whole Life. When Is It OK to Start Spending?

We’re taught to save for retirement almost as soon as we get our first real job. The advice is predictable: Put money in your 401(k), invest, and don’t touch it. Then keep building your nest egg so that someday you’ll have enough money to enjoy life.

But what happens when someday finally gets close? If you’re in your 50s or early 60s and have spent decades building wealth, there comes a point when another question matters just as much as how much you’ve saved. When do you start enjoying it? Investor Justin Donald believes too many people wait.

“I lead with cash flow, and I build the risk protection right into the deal,” Donald said. “Most people hand over their entire life chasing experiences they’re hoping to afford someday. I’d rather be worth something now.”

That line stayed with me. There’s a difference between being irresponsible with money and recognizing that not everything in life can be postponed until retirement.

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Being a Good Saver Can Be a Hard Habit to Break

Most retirement advice focuses on those who haven’t saved enough. Another group we don’t talk about nearly as much is people who have saved enough yet can’t bring themselves to spend it.

Christine Benz, director of personal finance and retirement planning at Morningstar and the author of “How to Retire,” has written about this problem. In a March 2026 column, Benz said she regularly hears from retirees who spend far less than the 3% to 4% initial withdrawal rates commonly discussed in retirement planning.

“They tell me they’ve been good savers, are frugal, and don’t need more,” Benz wrote. “Underspending seems to be part of their identities.”

I understand how that happens. You spend decades telling yourself not to touch the money. Then one day you’re supposed to flip a switch and start spending it. That can be harder than it sounds. Of course, there are good reasons to preserve wealth. Some retirees want to leave money to children or grandchildren. For others, charitable giving comes first. A large financial cushion can simply help people sleep at night. But there’s a difference between making a conscious choice and being afraid to spend the money that took a whole life to earn.

You Can Save Money. You Can’t Save Time.

This may be the bigger issue. David Blanchett, head of retirement research at Prudential Financial, studied how people’s spending changes with age. His 2026 research, published in Financial Planning Review, found that inflation-adjusted spending generally declines with age among retirees.

Apply that to real life. The trip you want to take at 55 may not be the one you want to take at 80.

One person might dream of taking their parents somewhere while they’re still healthy enough to travel. Others think about a big family vacation before adult children get too busy with their own lives. Some days are spent thinking about starting a business, buying an RV, or spending a month in Europe. Those opportunities don’t necessarily wait until retirement. You can save money, but you can’t save time.

Your Portfolio Isn’t the Goal

Michael Finke, a professor of wealth management at The American College of Financial Services, researches retirement and life satisfaction. His research shows that money is only one part of the equation. Health and relationships matter, too.

“Nobody gets happiness from money,” Finke writes on his website. “Money is a tool; it’s a means to do things that make you happy.”

That distinction matters because it’s easy to fixate on the number. You want $1 million. Then you get there, and $2 million feels safer. Maybe $3 million would be even better. But what does that number give you?

For most people, the answer isn’t a larger number on a statement. It’s freedom and choices. It could mean working less, traveling more, helping adult children, spending time with grandchildren, caring for aging parents, or starting something new. That’s what the portfolio can make possible.

Cash Flow Can Give You More Choices

Donald approaches the problem by focusing on cash flow. Instead of building wealth he can only access someday, he looks for investments that generate income now while continuing to build long-term wealth.

Investors seek income in many ways, including dividend-paying stocks, bonds, and real estate. None is risk-free. Dividends can be cut. Rental properties require maintenance and may sit vacant. Bonds carry their own risks. Some private investments can be difficult to sell. Donald’s broader point isn’t about one particular investment. It’s about building a financial life that doesn’t require waiting until age 65 to start living it.

So, When Have You Saved Enough?

There’s no single number. Someone who is 55 with $2 million and plans to retire at 60 has a very different situation from someone with the same amount who wants to retire tomorrow. Health care costs, Social Security, debt, housing, longevity, and lifestyle all matter. That’s where running the numbers with a financial planner can help. The conversation may include focusing on what’s needed for retirement, building in room for things to go wrong, and deciding what, if anything, to leave behind. Then look at what’s left.

Many individuals and couples will need to keep saving. Others will have reached the point where they can finally give themselves permission to use some of what they’ve built.

We’ve spent decades learning how to save for someday. The harder part may be recognizing when someday has arrived.